Life Changes

“I Don’t Like It, So It’s Wrong”

In a healing journey, it’s totally fine to seek support and guidance from others. Someone who isn’t you might have a clearer view of what’s holding you back and how to progress despite the obstacles. But when you turn to others, just as it’s important to trust yourself when you feel like they’re incorrect, it’s also important to be aware of when you’re resistant to or just don’t like what they’re saying. Not liking what you hear doesn’t automatically mean it’s wrong.

In my practice, I often have clients who have a trauma history and are struggling with how to create the life they want. During a channeling or energy healing session, my guides and I tell them what we feel they need to know, including the things they might be doing that hold them back.


Humans generally don’t like hearing that they have responsibility for problems in their lives. Most of my clients accept being told that, while they are not responsible for harm that other people have inflicted on them, they do have some responsibility for their own healing journey. They aren’t necessarily happy to have things pointed out to them that they would benefit from changing, but they see the truth in the statements.

Other clients, though, have gotten angry at hearing things like “This thought pattern is keeping you stuck” or “It would benefit you to look at this in a different way.” They don’t want to be told how they’re contributing to their current situation or what they could do to cause positive changes. They want to hear that it’s someone else’s fault or that they’re completely fine as they are and don’t need to change anything.

That, unfortunately, isn’t reality. There is no fault. Someone else is responsible for what they do to you, but you are ultimately responsible for how you live your life, even if you’re impacted by what other people have done. And everyone needs to change and grow throughout their lives; there is no such thing as stagnation. The only option is whether you choose to direct the changes or just let them happen.

When you seek help and advice from others, you might not always like what you hear. That’s okay. You don’t have to like it. But hopping from one practitioner to another until you find someone who says what you want to hear instead of what’s true isn’t going to help you progress. A practitioner’s job isn’t to tell you what you want to hear or to soothe your ego. It’s to help you learn, grow, and progress.

If you react negatively to what a practitioner says, before you dismiss them and look for someone else, take time to consider whether your reaction is due to them actually being incorrect or due to you just not liking what they’ve said.