Over the course of my life, I have experienced various forms of abuse and other trauma. For nearly two decades now, I have been on a journey to heal from those experiences. And for most of that time, I have had occasional people tell me “Just get over it, it isn’t happening anymore, you’re just dwelling on the past.” (Or, worse, “You just want attention.”) Trauma is not an event. It is not a “thought…
I am a trauma survivor. For me, that means throughout my life, I have experienced abuse and other things that caused long-lasting effects on my physical and mental health. I have been working for years toward healing from those experiences. But trauma is not just “dwelling on the past,” and it isn’t the same for everyone. Disclaimer: I am not a mental health professional, nor have I ever been enrolled in an educational program on…
I’ve been talking with my guides since early childhood. Back then, of course, I didn’t know they were my guides. I just knew they were my friends. They protected me, advised me, helped me cope with bullying and abuse…They were the only consistently beneficial beings in my life. There are a lot of things about being a human in the society in which I live that either don’t make sense to me or are completely…
My guides don’t tell me what to do. When I started working with them consciously, I thought they would tell me what to do. I was waiting for them to give me directions and orders. Sometimes I got annoyed when that wasn’t what happened. But that isn’t the role of a guide. A genuine guide will not tell humans what to do, because genuine guides are firm believers in free will. Every sentient being has…
Last week, I discussed the fact that guides don’t tell us what to do; they’re with us to help us make our own decisions and own our inner power. So I wanted to give you an example of what happens when I ask my guides to tell me what to do. This is what happened when I asked my guide Shiva how I should write this blog post. Me: “According to my editorial calendar, this…
Some of the channeling clients I’ve had have been taken aback when my guide has asked them questions and have asked them to consider other points of view. They expected my guide to give them all the answers and tell them what to do, and weren’t sure how to react when that wasn’t what they got. Guides aren’t here to tell us everything. That, in fact, is the opposite of their purpose. They’re with us…
As I discussed in last week’s post, I’m exploring setting intentions rather than goals for my business and my life in general. The primary reason for this is that when I set goals and don’t meet them, it’s far too easy for me to fall into self-loathing and negative self-talk. Sometimes I can’t quite see what I *have* accomplished, only what I haven’t. With intentions, there isn’t an end-game. It isn’t “I’m going to do…
We’re a bit more than halfway through January now. Did you set goals or make resolutions at the beginning of the new year? If so, how are you doing on them? I used to fall in line with the “make New Year’s resolutions” thing. I was taught it was what you were supposed to do. Did I keep those resolutions? Not often. Sometimes I forgot I’d even made them; sometimes it wasn’t feasible for me…
Some people are genuinely positive and happy all the time. This is their natural state of being. They don’t have to put work into it; it’s simply who they are. When they talk about feeling positive emotions and thinking positive thoughts, they are speaking their truth. For many of us, though, “all positive all the time” is not who we genuinely are. We feel potentially problematic emotions like anger and fear. We think negative thoughts.…
In talking about or teaching the concepts of energetic attraction (a/k/a manifestation or the “Law of Attraction”), people often state that in order to bring positive things into your life, you have to be positive all the time. According to them, if you think negative thoughts, feel emotions such as anger or fear, or say negative things, you’ll create negative outcomes in your life. In other words, to their way of thinking, bad things only…